Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Moving In Lesson #1: Compromising

As I alluded to a while back, my boyfriend and I took the big leap and moved in together.  Since then I have learned a number of things.  Right off the bat, I learned Lesson #1, you must compromise.

Both him and I come from families with similar morals and principles, however, we were raised in two totally different households.  Both of our parents raised us in very different ways.  For example, in my house canned goods and such go in a pantry, in his house they go in a cupboard next to the cups; in my house we washed the dishes by hand, in his house they use the dish washer; and in my house we made dinner at home every night, in his house they often ate out.

So how have we compromise?

1.) I gave up my dream pantry for a "utility closet" that he insisted he needed for all of his tools.  While the pantry food was put into one of the cupboards.

In his defense the "utility closet" is being put to good use.  Having the food in the same cupboard as the glasses still bothers me, because I like to have things organized and separated... I just avoid the situation and only open one side of the cupboard at a time.  

2.) Decorations in the house we did together, so we both liked the look of the apartment.

3.) He got rid of his 10 year old futon and other bachelor-ish things, and I got rid of a lot of excess stuff (ie: clothes, kitchen items,etc.) that was unnecessary.  (This stuff is not pictured, because it's gone!!)

4.)  We try to make as many meals at home as we can, but we allow for going out for dinner for nights like trivia or when we have special dinner plans with our parents or friends.  We don't really go out to eat just the two of us, there is usually a reason.

Morale of the story, whether you're moving in together, getting married, just starting to date or whatever the situation might be, you have to pick and choose which "fights" you want to fight.  In other words, if it's not something you feel incredibly strongly about it, don't ruin a relationship over it... compromise!

Have you had a similar experience?  What did you do?

Now that I am working two jobs (my internship and my new part time job) I find myself a lot more busy and having to pack lunches.  During the school year I used to pack my lunches for work all the time, however, since I moved here all the food that we have bought has not been very "lunchable", if you will.  Most of the foods we have around are foods that take come time to prep, which wouldn't be an issue if I didn't work over all the meal times (lunch, dinner).  When I get home at like 3 or 8 pm, which happens most days, it is at an odd hour where I either don't have time before heading to my other job, or it's too late to sit down and make a nice meal. Needless to say, although I appreciate my boyfriend doing the shopping, I think I need to go so that I can pick up foods that I can pack for quick eats between shifts and at work.  As you will see, my eats are all over the place for the previously mentioned reasons, but I plan to make them better for next week...

6:00 am banana
7:15 am over night oats (post-workout)
10:00 am banana
1:00 pm frosted animal crackers
3:00 pm pudding
4:00 pm chicken noodle soup
5:00 pm Subway chicken on flat bread sub, w/chips
8:00 pm cinnamon toast crunch

Where the heck are my veggies?! My diet is so out of wack right now, I cannot wait to get it back on track! How do you deal with being super busy and packing meals on a daily basis? 

5 mile run in 47 minutes

Today's run felt pretty good, I was tired by the end, but I probably could've kept going at a slower pace.  I ran my first 3 miles at a steady 9:13/mile pace, for the last 2 miles I ran that pace for :40 and then ran at a 8:53/mile pace for :20.  The constant fluctuation kept the last chunk of my workout interesting.  What was your workout today?


  1. I can totally relate to this! I have been living with my boyfriend for over a year now and it has been FULL of compromises. You really have to learn to let go of some things in order to share a space with someone like that! Although, I am totally with you on the whole can goods in the pantry thing. I have never heard of them going in the cupboards with the dishes, that would bug the hell outta me too! haha

  2. @Em Totally agree with you, glad to hear I'm not the only one! And the goods in the cupboard does bother me, but I try not to think about it... I mean it's not the end of the world, right?!

  3. Living together is definitely compromise but I hope its going well :) Nice run btw!!


It's your turn! Tell me your comments and opinions!